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Triggers don't play fair in the Sex Addicts world

January 03, 2025 • Gary McFarlane • Episode 106

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Triggers don't play fair. They are often unpredictable (like a music track which comes on) and moves you from chilled to a fight to maintain sobriety. So underhand. Not a nice play partner.

Carolyn Spring talks about the aftermaths of Triggers, from the sense of Shame, Self-blame, failure, powerlessness, critical self-talk, being out of control.

What is this 'Shame of being Triggers?' Anyone identify with that expression?

Are there only three types of Triggers - which need managing? Not sure about that, but Carolyn Spring knows better:
1. Uncomfortable Associations
2. Distressing Reminders
3. True Triggers

She advocates splitting the problem up into those three types of triggers; work out a strategy for each, whilst asking if the Trigger is an Association, a Reminder or a True/Real/Emergency/Fight Flight Freeze type Trigger.
https://www.carolynspring.com/three-types-of-trigger-three-techniques-for-taming/

Begin the process of empowering self with knowledge - from "learning to manage my critical self-talk and self-soothe rather than lacerate myself after being triggered was a key waymaker on my journey of recovery...."

Remember the correct order. Don't first of all go after changing behaviours. First, change your thinking/(cognition) and in so doing, you change your life, because changed behaviour will follow afoot.

In all your getting, get understanding. In getting understanding, gain wisdom - over time. No quick fixes remember. Don't beat up your brain for the ways it is trying to help you, even though it is doing so amiss - at the moment.

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